Anger Management

How to manage anger and guard your witness


It has been said that when we lose our temper—we lose. We can lose our joy, our peace, our job, our respect and our witness (which is likely Satan’s end game). But though many do not question whether or not this is true, many struggle with managing their anger. Being able to ‘tame the tongue’ and manage our emotions are formidable challenges.

It is  not sufficient to simply recognize our vulnerabilities, it is also important to recognize what God’s expectations are (a few of which are noted below):

  • We are “ambassadors” for the Lord and thereby represent Him in all we do (2 Corinthians 5:20)
  • We are to respond to every situation with love and grace (Matthew 5:44)
  • Our every word is to be “useful for edification” (Ephesians 4:29)
  • In all we do, we are to do it for the glory of God.” ( 1 Corinthians 10:31)
  • We are to “live lives worthy of our calling.” (Ephesians 4:1)

God has great expectations of His people—and He provides great helps to His people.  In this brief teaching I share, primarily from the book of Proverbs, insights and suggestions that will aid in keeping the temper in check. Remember, God will help His people do what He calls them to do. Have faith, work toward improvement, and don’t give up. God will honor those who strive to honor Him.

Study notes for the video teaching: ANGER MANAGEMENT


  • Average Male loses temper 6 times a week
  • The average females loses her temper 3 times a week
  • Women tend to become more angry at people
  • Men tend to become more angry at things
  • It is estimated that for every one hour you’re extremely angry, your life is shortened by one day



  • Remember
  • Reflect before reacting
  • Resilience
  • Restrain your remarks
  • Respect your calling


#1. Remember the consequences

  • “A hot tempered man…gets into all kinds of trouble.”    Proverbs 29:22 (LB)
  • Consider the movie, ‘What About Bob?”
  • “Hot tempers cause arguments” (Proverbs 15:18)
  • “Hot tempers cause mistakes” (Proverbs 14:29)
  • “People with hot tempers do foolish things” (Proverbs 14:17)
  • “People who fly into a rage seldom make a good landing”     – Will Rogers
  • “The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left” Proverbs 11:29 (LB)
    • You can get yourself in trouble
    • You are prone to make mistakes
    • You can look foolish
    • You can lose respect, your health, your job
    • You can lose your family


#2. Reflect before you react

  • “The fool gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waits, and lets it grow cool.” Proverbs 29:11(NEB)
  • “People who stay calm have real insight” Proverbs 17:27


#3. Resilience

  •    Proverbs 19:11
    • What you get upset about shows the depth of your character, and the level of your spiritual maturity
    • “I came that you might have an example.” (John 13:15)
    • Nothing can make you mad


#4. Restrain your remarks

  • “If you want to stay out of trouble, be careful what you say.”   Proverbs 21:23 (GN)
  • “Intelligent people think before they speak.” Proverbs 16:23a (GN)
  • “A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh word stirs it up.” Proverbs 15:1 (GN)


#5. Respect your calling

  • Believers share a heavenly calling (Hebrews 3:1)
  • Believers are sanctified in Christ and called to be holy.  (1 Corinthians 2:2)


“…live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge  of God.”      Colossians 1:10b

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